https://okcupid.regfox.com/relationships-guide-under-new-management
https://okcupid.regfox.com/how-to-read-online-dating-site
https://www.ijimai.org/journal/user/41277
https://www.colors.life/post/1617826/
https://www.colors.life/post/1617827/
http://www.icminozzimatera.it/web/eharmony/home/-/blogs/how-loveawake-has-transformed-my-wife
http://www.icminozzimatera.it/web/eharmony/home/-/blogs/so-grateful-loveawake-has-set-us-free
http://www.icminozzimatera.it/web/eharmony/home/-/blogs/spanking-in-anger
http://www.getx.com.tw/web/okcupid/home/-/blogs/12748617
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https://www.womenconnect.org/feedback?p_p_id=com_liferay_wiki_web_portlet_WikiDisplayPortlet_INSTANCE_bj7NdWzfrJNU&p_p_lifecycle=0&p_p_state=normal&p_p_mode=view
http://usamen.fresh.li/page/loving_supportive_and_kind_control

I'm glad you have a sense of humour! I would not condone unsafe practices in any place, DD, Taken In Hand, BDSM which ever alphabet jumble you prefer. When it comes down to it there are people who ignore safety in all areas of sexual practices. It should neither be condoned nor accepted no matter your lifestyle. If you are HOH and you are doing things that are really unsafe, then you are doing a bad job of being HOH. If the person in control knowingly does so, then it is wrong, no matter if you call yourself a Dom, Top, Sir, Master, Mistress, Spanker or HOH.

Just because you know of a couple who calls themselves DD or Taken In Hand and they condone unsafe practices does not mean that it is condoned or widely practiced by the whole community. I can only speak from my own experiences. If someone pointed out to my husband that he could potentially hurt me by what he is doing, he would consider what they are saying. He cares about my safety before all else. I would bet that is true for the majority on this site.

Take care,
Tev

by Tevemer on 2004 Dec 17 - 01:11 | reply to this comment
Men Want Subordinate Women
BDSM'ers know that most people..gender and gender preferences notwithstanding, prefer the bottom role. There are far more bottoms than tops in every category. Not in your marriage maybe, but two people is hardly a majority world view.

You should get out more. According to a recent paper, reported in an article on WebMD - Men Want Subordinate Women.

Perceived Dominance Matters to Men in Relationships, Say Researchers

By Miranda Hitti
WebMD Medical News
Reviewed By Brunilda Nazario, MD
on Wednesday, December 15, 2004

Dec. 15, 2004 -- Men prefer subordinate women for relationships, suggests new research in the journal Evolution and Human Behavior.