I would like to say to all the Black women here. Why are you shocked about the responses? Or not shocked but even bothered. What have Black women done as a collective group to improve the perceptions out there about us? NOTHING. We will complain until the cows come home but still do nothing but sit and hope for change. Don’t you see there is a reason one becomes a punching bag. Because you stand by and allow people to continually assassinate who you are without a fight. It saddens me to see so many Black women continue to support venues that clearly demonize and attack our femininity (i.e. TV, movies, music). The end result is exactly what you see here – no normal male of any race would want a woman deemed as masculine, mean, FAT or ball busting. That is ALL they see in the media of Black women. Black women have shown no interest in fighting the media and other outlets who assassinate our images. We stand by and watch, complain amongst ourselves yet continue to support the media and other outlets that have put us in this position.
It’s clear to most Black women that the media and such play a very important role in how one is perceived.
Until Black women become more PRO ACTIVE in taking charge of how our femininity is portrayed, things will never get better. And they haven’t. We are still since day 1 either fat asexual/ or overly sexualized. And we do NOTHING but sit. Should we not be shocked that men generally do not want us? I mean really.
I would say that Black women need to spend more energy in fighting the system that places us in this position, than complaining about the end results of it.